Impact of Exposure to Violence on the Development of our Children

This is a great link to a resource sharing the impact of exposure to violence on our children that we serve.  Trauma informed care is taking precedence as we understand the impact of trauma on development, relationships, learning, and future story.  Please take the time to personally review and consider sharing.

http://www.safestartcenter.org/pdf/impact-exposure-violence-on-dev.pdf

Shared by:

Lisa M. Wright, LCSW, RPT, CTS

CAC Mental Health Program Coordinator

The Circle Preschool Program Coordinator

Greater Richmond SCAN

(804) 643-7226  fax (804) 643-3529

www.grscan.com

Out-of-body experiences

Often in counseling a therapist will ask you to write a letter to someone for the soul purpose of you writing it, not mailing it.  The process brings a form of resolution.  We are hesitant to write a letter for fear something so simple, yet hard, would not be enough to reconcile the pain and hurt.  This is a misguided thought.  The letter is not the magic wand. Your obedience and willingness to unveil the hurt begins a journey towards healing.

Trauma informed care recognizes that trauma exists, it’s real, and has a profound impact on your daily life. Although you may never reconcile with others in your story, you can be reconciled within yourself.  It’s not easy.  The journey has mountain top experiences of conquering, and valley experiences of feeling like you are back to square one.

How much power do you give others to validate your life story?  How much permission do you give others to control your self-concept?  Can one word spoken drive your soul to the pit of hell?  Can a trigger cause an interruption that takes you down physically and emotionally?

I’ve often described times like these as “out-of-body experiences” and lately have turned this phenomenon to the positive.  A dear friend and coworker of mine, who was my supervisor for my LCSW, Teresa Reynolds, shared this with me:

“I believe the key to healing from these painful past experiences is something like having an out-of-body experience.  Of course  that’s just a figure of speech .  What I mean is when you are born again you really need to see the past as another person in different life.  For two reasons.  One, to forgive others by remembering sinners are spiritually sick and do sick things.  And of course secondly to forgive yourself.  The only way I can do what I do now in light of all the awful things I experienced in my youth is to realize, and believe, I’m a different person now.  Every day I’m born again and the old  Doug dies daily.  “Forgetting those things are behind…”  Philippians 3:13             Doug Batchelor

I don’t know Doug Batchelor, but find it interesting that he, too, described “out-of-body experiences” in similar fashion.  Perfect timing. An amazing God moment.  Memories are laden with emotion and often take camp in the forefront of our brains.  It’s the lens in which we see the world, love, dream, build relationships, and view ourselves.

“I have a reputation I can never get rid of,” Audrie wrote at the depth of her despair.

We have all been abused by the devil but Jesus makes it possible for us to be born again as new creatures! 2 Corinthians 5:17 (Doug Batchelor)

How does healing come?

Acknowledging the truth and talking about it with a trusted Christian counselor. Aibileen from the movie, The Help, shared healing and change did not come until the truth was told.  After watching that movie, nothing seemed harder than a strong black woman, from Jackson, Mississippi in the 60s, standing up for human rights through the power of love, forgiveness, and resolve.

Being willing to work through your story with Jesus and be patient with yourself.  Rome was not built in a day!

Allowing Jesus to heal and reconcile, not man’s validation in your life.

From the work of Dr. Brene’ Brown–embrace vulnerability and courage, not shame or perfection!  Awesome social worker–worthy of checking her out:  http://www.brenebrown.com/

She is also on TED talks.

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The Prayer Circle Around my Beautiful Family–2012
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Anna–probably 1970. God is faithful!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! HAVE A LAUGH!

How does your brain evaluate the world?  Do you see challenges as a threat, or an opportunity for discovery?  If you believe that success = happiness, you will chase the tail of happiness and never obtain it.  Think about it.  If you make a sales quota, your boss will probably increase the quota for next month.  If you get a raise, by next year, you’ll want more.

What about happiness? Joy?  God gave us Dopamine, a simple organic chemical that, not only makes us feel good, but turns all the learning centers on in your brain!  You want to work smarter?  Make joy a part of your life–choose joy.  The world is full of suffering and tragedy. How can we practice joy? Enjoy this funny TED talk with some tips! I promise you will have a good laugh!

Share your plans with the Lord

Proverbs 16

Share your plans with the Lord,
and you will succeed

I went to bed last night with a mix bag of emotions.  I’m deeply struggling with some news I heard from a friend, questioning some personal decisions, and aching for days that have gone by–children leaving, growing, maturing. I want to control time itself.  Make it slow down.  What’s the hurry?

I woke up to my husband smiling and sharing the verse above.  “Share your plans with the Lord, Anna, and you will succeed.”  Oh precious souls who are on this journey, share everything with Jesus–He understands.  He wants to hold our hand, guide us, walk the valleys, and soar with you on mountains.  Let not man determine your path but GOD!

Trust in HIM…….

HE will direct and lead…………..

Preparing our hearts

On the way to church, we decided to prepare our hearts for worship.  On 104.7–gospel station, the song I’m still standing was playing.  A man gave his testimony as a part of the song and announced the situations that God brought him through over the years–depression, death of loved ones, hurricane Katrina, cancer……but for every single one he would shout—“But I’m still standing!”

I felt like I was in church with him as I drove to church!  Another song came on and sang the words, “Love is patient, Love is kind” and as I looked over the bridge on Qualla road I saw a young man in the arms of an elderly man outside a small white church praying for each other. Etched in my mind!  How many times does God use “scenes” from His story in us to witness to others and we NEVER know!  Think about that!

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Camp Willow Run

I danced into church and witnessed testimony after testimony of God’s faithfulness as folks were sharing their salvation story and then headed to their baptism!  We sang over them as they were baptized!  The sermon was on end times–our study in Woman of Worth, which we had tonight! Just a glorious day of God connecting the dots and answering prayer!  Thank you Jesus…..Now I could go on and on about how relevant the sermon was to my journey……some things we “treasure in our hearts!”  Below is a few seconds of the baptism time.  What a difference purposeful preparation makes in our journey!