Love Languages

According to Gary Chapman’s, The Five Love Languages, we all have a love language that we practice and desire to receive. We love to be loved either through words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and/or physical touch.  The love languages are for any relationship–parent/child, marriage, friendships, and co-workers.  Most of us have a favorite with a close second.

Here is Mr. Chapman’s website in which you can take the love language test as an individual, as a couple, or with your children.

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Yesterday, IN ABUNDANCE, all five love languages were poured into my home for my oldest daughter’s bridal shower. My family was deeply overwhelmed by the generosity of family and friends.  When I was a young girl, I had an amazing mentor, Inez McKay, who died from cancer when I was in my thirties.  I will always remember attending her funeral and reading the Woman of Worth poem in her program. I read that poem as a woman struggling with my worth, and Inez, even in her death, mentored me.  Imagine your funeral.  What legacy would your family put inside the program?  If you pre-planned your funeral, what would you want written?

Not only did Inez, my mother’s best friend, find the time to love on an awkward teenage girl, but she left a legacy–YOU ARE A WOMAN OF WORTH!  So, from the work of the Holy Spirit, Woman of Worth Mentoring Ministries was born.

What a gift to find myself 49 years old, over 19 years later, with “little women”–beautiful, joyful, courageous women of God, sharing in the love of Jesus together and with each other.

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Not only did they show up and work, but they added special details that announced you matter to me.

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Pictures of over 7 years of dating, quotes from Spencer to Victoria, hand-made crafts from Samantha, flowers, …..

The food was like a feast that, for me, was so divine, I thought I was at The Wedding Feast!  It was the love of friends and family pitching in and bringing food to share.

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The first cell message of the morning was from Krista telling me to breathe and enjoy the journey.  The first knock on my door was Sandy who came early to create a beautiful prayer calendar and assemble Samantha’s guest goodie bags.  Her confident and fresh personality added just the positive energy we needed. Her laughter and love for my girls affirmed and hugged on this mother of the bride.

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Melinda’s prayer and blessing……

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Karen’s unbelievable words of affirmation over my life ……

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Annie and Kaye’s constant love…..

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The love of grandmothers….

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Nursing buddies who remain faithful…

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Sisters who give and support each other….

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Valentina and Vivian with the Woman of Worth Group

My life is full of blessings!  The love poured into our home is still felt this morning as I sit in the quiet…..

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Inez McKay’s Picture

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I want to close out this post thanking someone who shows his love in abundance everyday–day in and day out.  I looked through my shower pictures and not a single picture of him was taken.  That’s his style.  He cleaned, mopped, vacuumed, baked four loaves of lavender bread, ate at a table with a bunch of feisty women, and later on that day went prom dress shopping with his beautiful 16-year-old.

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Parish, who would have thought over 26 years ago, you and I would be here? Yesterday was a reminder that God is faithful, and we have family and friends that have mentored us, supported us, and because of them, we are blessed.

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Philippians 1:3

Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God.

Seeds planted years ago will grow in God’s timing….

The things we do as parents bear fruit years later.  As I am growing older, I see the work of God and His faithfulness.  My oldest is getting married.  In my cleaning, preparing, and  organizing, many life events from our past are coming forth.  I found a letter she wrote to her “Beloved Husband” in middle school when we studied And the Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh.  Yesterday, in my cleaning for an upcoming party, my husband found a beautiful platter called “True Love” from his mother, my daughter’s grandmother, for the future wedding date.  Inside the platter was a beautiful letter to emphasize God’s timing, love, and grace on this upcoming day.  The platter was given to her after a church event in 2005 for young ladies pledging for God’s best.

After a long and deep conversation with my beautiful daughter surrounding these treasures, God provided joy and peace, and a remembrance of His God story for her life and future husband.  It’s not easy.  We agreed that His mercies are new every morning, and His best makes for hard choices, but they are worth it.  David was a man after God’s own heart and found God’s Grace healing time after time.  We, as women, strive to be virtuous, claiming our birthright as daughter of the King, and our worth far greater than rubies.

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Her letter to her future husband written in middle school.

Praying for our children, guiding them along the way, parenting through grace, and teaching His Word are so important. My daughters have taught me so much in their soul work with Jesus.  Be encouraged and stay the course.  Is it hard? You bet! Do you fall short sometimes as a parent? Yes!  Nothing worthwhile ever comes without sweat, tears, and unspeakable joy.  And, faith…

Be Courageous and Kind

We took our daughter and cousins to see the new Cinderella movie for her birthday present.  There were many noteworthy scenes that one could apply to life and discuss a deeper meaning.  The common theme was the challenge to be “courageous and kind”. On her death-bed, Cinderella’s mother told her these words of wisdom to carry her through the challenges in life:

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I thought deeply about the combination of courage and kindness.  Typically a courageous person is filled with assertiveness and power; yet, kindness brings healing along with the courage.  Healing for the courageous person, and healing to others.

Jesus was the ultimate courageous and kind person.  He faced many different situations, unfair treatment, cruelty, challenging people, and uncertainty with courageous kindness.

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.  Ephesians 4:32

Cinderella was kind when kindness was hard.  She was courageous when fear consumed her.  Prior to going to the movie, we had a Bible study together in which the little girls shared verses on their inheritance as a daughter of the King (Galatians 3:26)!  They talked about the time they were baptized and gave their hearts to the One, prince charming–Jesus–who rescued them, and crowned them —

“You shall be a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord…”  Isaiah 62:3 (ESV)

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Oh how wonderful the thought to teach our beautiful girls (and ourselves) to be courageous and kind.  Sometimes that courage makes changes in our lives that take us out of our comfort zone, but in all of the roads God leads us down, may we be kind to ourselves and to others.

Forgive yourself and enjoy life…

Forgive others and be set free…

Twila Paris wrote a song called How Beautiful.

“How beautiful the tender eyes that chose to forgive and never despise” is a line from this beautiful song.

May we have the eyes of Jesus and love just as He has loved us.

 

 

Melting Pot Cheddar Cheese Fondue with Tater Tots

1/2 cup broth (we used chicken bouillon)

2 teaspoons chopped garlic

1/2 to 1 teaspoons of dry mustard powder

2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce

6 ounces medium-sharp cheddar cheese

2 ounces Emmentaler Swiss cheese

2 tablespoons all-purpose flour

Instructions:

If you are using an electric fondue pot, turn it on to medium; otherwise use a double boiler to heat up this mixture.  Place broth, garlic, dry mustard, and W sauce in the pot and combine well.  Shred or cubed cheeses and toss with flour, coating the cheese well (the flour will help thicken the sauce).  When the broth mixture is warm, add 1/3 of the cheese and mix well. Once the cheese has been incorporated well, add half of the remaining cheese and whisk in very well.  Add the remaining cheese and whisk until nice and smooth.

We used the link below but adapted it a little (noted above).

(http://www.copykat.com/2011/02/11/melting-pot-cheddar-cheese-fondue/)

My sweet Vivian wanted to make cheese fondue with tater tots for dipping! She had this at O’Charley’s Restaurant with her grandparents recently.

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hearty beefy soup

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This recipe came from a book Harvey and Marie shared with us, The Soup Bible. What made this so yummy was the use of left over grilled steak from the night before!

1 tablespoon vegetable oil

3/4 pound round steak, cut into 1/2-inch cubes

1 large onion, chopped

2 Medium carrots, sliced

2 stalks celery, diced

5 cups beef broth

1 bottle (12 ounces) stout or dark ale (optional)

3/4 teaspoon dried oregano

1/4 teaspoon salt

1/8 teaspoon black pepper

1 can kidney beans, rinsed and drained

1 small zucchini, cut into 1/2 inch cubes

4 ounces mushrooms, sliced

Directions: (Hope you can see!)

 

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