We’ve spent over 34 Christmas mornings together. Our tradition to write a special letter to each other continues. If it is possible, I woke up more in love with you this morning as God reminded me of our faithfulness to each other through it all. I watch our oldest manage small children and it brings back so many memories of us hanging in there together during the busy seasons despite tantrums, unexpected illnesses of our children, financial challenges, and our inexperience of handling self, marriage, and others as we faced new adventures. It’s only in our looking back that we can say with great confidence that we have been each others anchor and support, and we survived!
That’s my promise to each young couple reading this post. Your children will grow and become their own person without you wiping their nose, changing a diaper, or driving them here and there. You’ll wake up one morning to find you have more time to linger in bed, write love letters, and date each other. Keep that in mind when you want to get in the car and escape the madness. Of course all the marriage counselors will tell you to schedule date nights as young couples, and, yes, you need to do this, too. Parish and I made it a point to schedule date nights and get-a-ways. With the help of grandparents and my oldest, Victoria, we could practice connection and make time for each other. See, there are some advantages of having your children so far a part in age! Victoria, thank you for being the best big sister and daughter. You amaze me.
I have precious friends who face this Christmas without their spouse. As I write this, I am praying for you. I pray that this post will bring back memories of your love, and you will feel the warmth of the memories as they comfort you. Perhaps even memories that make you laugh aloud and smile. Share those memories with others this Christmas and all through the year. Keep their memory alive by sharing their legacy.
Parish, what makes our time now so incredibly deep and two hearts woven together in the knowing of love are all those tiny moments we’ve conquered together side by side. Let’s not be too ridiculous in believing that all the moments have been good or perfect, but they were ours in the making, and we are wiser in the matters of love because of them.
Last night at church we cried together as we worshiped. “This is what it’s really all about”, you said to me. At the core of our relationship is Jesus. As we grow older, I see you as a brother in Christ along with my covenant partner in marriage. We heard the following quote from the pastor and smiled:
I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else. C. S. Lewis
It is by the love of Jesus Christ that we “see each other”. If we could spend our lives seeing each other through grace, forgiveness, passion, and joy–all the beautiful expressions of intimacy that God created–we will keep Christmas in our hearts until death do us part. The final expression of our love will be our eternal resting place with Jesus. We will know each other in complete and pure love as children of God. Isn’t it wonderful that our heavenly Father loves us with great passion?!
Thank you my love for the December adventure of the couple’s calendar. The first thing you said to me this morning was “You are so beautiful!” It is the way you say such things that makes me know you cherish me. You see me through the eyes of His love.
With all my love and affection,