Believing that most people’s intentions are good…
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Teddy Roosevelt
Imagine your life without the goal of impressing others. Every aspect of our lives seems evaluated. Are you a good parent? Spouse? Student? At the end of the year when you are evaluated by your boss, did you measure up? That last presentation you gave, was everyone moved and impressed?
Secondly, imagine your life without the worry or thoughts of negative intentions from others. The older and more seasoned I become, I realize how incredibly difficult life can be, and some folks are reacting to their personal and professional struggles, not to you personally. Believe that good exists in the world and in those you directly work with. The good is there but sometimes it is hidden by the circumstances of life, fear, or pain. We can’t personalize or absorb this into our minds. We seek first to understand, then to be understood.
Thirdly, we often play the comparison game. If I could just be more like ____________. Our joy is hijacked, and we begin questioning ourselves and others. After hearing a message on these three areas that can negatively impact our ability to follow God’s amazing plans for us, I realized the connection to the promise I made–TO LIVE LIFE WHOLEHEARTEDLY!
Living life wholeheartedly is having the courage to be you even when others are not impressed, and they tell you so through their words and actions.
I’m not proposing that honest feedback during a review is not valuable. A teachable spirit is the greatest gift you can give yourself– a willingness to learn, grow, and change.
I’m referring more to the chronically critical person who can’t seem to provide any positive feedback or encouraging words. I also consider the world in which we live that is often critical and bad news is “good news”–what controversial or shaming event can we expose? And, for some, who can we oppress and marginalize.
We can’t change the world or the critical person. We can only change our response and how we go about living our lives.
So how do we live?
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.
We’ve got to change our mindset!
It’s good enough to conquer, but isn’t it wonderful that God says we are MORE than conquerors. We not only win the battles of this world through Him, but we are given the power, strength, and grace to overcome–beautiful things happen from the ashes of our lives.
Do you live your life believing that through His love you are more than a conqueror? Or, do you wake up feeling wimpy, bitter, burned out, or anxious? Are you one of those critical people?
Lift your eyes, heart, and mind to the author of your life! He will give you the boldness and grace needed to move forward and to become who you were destined to be–
MORE THAN A CONQUEROR!