We’ve made it a practice to allow dating at 16 years old.
Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.
Song of Solomon 8:4
Within the dating, a covenant is drawn between the child and parents. I strongly believe that young men and women should follow God’s Word “and not awaken love until the time is right”. I know 16 years old is certainly not the “right time”. A covenant with solid boundaries must exist. Our family gathered around our daughter to pray over her, create these boundaries together, and a promise ring was placed on her wedding ring finger. God reminded me during prayer time that we often perform difficult tasks as parents that plant seeds of hope and provide the Godly base for children to know the truth and safety of His Word and way. It’s their choice, within our guidance, to choose the way of Jesus and follow His Word. Never not do something God is calling you to do because you wonder if it will make a difference. You do it because He needs for you to deliver and teach His Word to the soul He created. It was so good to have our oldest daughter there with us as we prayed over her. It was a special evening of teaching His Word as a family. You don’t have to create special moments to teach God’s Word. We were busy with lots of things but took the time to create this moment within the daily walk with Jesus and life.
Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Deuteronomy 11:19
I will strive to put Jesus first and be in His Word. I will honor my parents and their instruction in my dating relationship.
I will date in groups.
My parents will meet and get to know the person I’m dating. Time will be spent doing family events, so they know my values and the importance of family.
Before going to their house, we must have a conversation with their parents, and they need to be on the same page as us–the same values.
No spending the night or going on vacation together.
They have to be actively involved in a relationship with Jesus and visit church with you.
They should not be drinking, doing drugs, are acting out sexually.
Remember the line you drew in the physical relationship in the Bible Study And The Bride Wore White.
No Face Book drama and marriage talk
Your values must be evident—no sex before marriage, Jesus, family and school come first, and your focus is on the future that God has planned for you