Responding to Trauma with Radical Love (Two Part Series)

I wanted to share a collection of resources for your place of worship. Grace Baptist in Richmond is a compassionate church that radically loves. My dear friend, Dr. Lisa Webb, asked me to pull some resources for their newsletter that comes out each week. They had two articles that came out in a Part 1…

Co-regulation and Connection

Attending the Advancing School Mental Health Conference, I was reminded of the importance of co-regulation.We teach our children how to self-regulate through co-regulation. When we provide connection, warmth, a safe environment, and consistent teaching, our children will learn over time how to self-regulate in a positive way. This dance is timeless. As we grow older,…

Checking in

Where are you right now in this moment? Maybe I caught you in a moment of peace and understanding? Maybe you are overwhelmed with hopelessness or somewhere in between? A friend and coworker sent me this article with an emoji. Coronavirus Briefing from the New York Times It came at the right time for me….

DEAR MAN

Today I would like to share a DBT activity that will increase positive communication within any relationship. We often avoid practicing skills because we get overwhelmed and stuck in patterns. I encourage you to be open and courageous enough to try something new to interrupt a communication pattern that’s causing barriers to a healthier way…

Cook and Cherish E-Book

Do you want a fun way to connect as a couple? Take a look at this E-Book Parish and I created! We hope you enjoy! We wish all couples a Happy Valentine’s Day! We took the time to write and journal our week of “Cook and Cherish” during our anniversary getaway. You will find recipes,…

Connect the Dots Activity

My youngest purchased a journal for both of us to work on then come together to share our entries and discuss our discoveries. I was shocked by an activity that encouraged us to connect the dots. Seeing it on paper and the connections explained a lot about what is important to me, and how my…

30 Days to a Better Relationship

As I walked to the Kindred Spirit mailbox, I had a prayerful conversation about marriage. My marriage. The marriage of my oldest daughter. My friends who share their ups and downs of marriage. I noticed a theme in my reflection of “contempt”. The Gottman Institute provides marriage resources and research around contempt in our marriage….

Listen

If you really listen, you can often understand the meaning behind the words or conversation. Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship. Learn what they are and how to avoid them. Dr. Gottman’s Four Horsemen: Stonewalling Defensiveness Criticism Contempt I was reminded…

Begin with Love

Our brains are 20 times more likely to focus on the negative than the positive. This propensity is called negativity bias. I remember this precious picture of one of my girls. She sat on a chair in her pink dress for the professional photographer with the biggest smile! When we received the pictures back, we…

We Have A Song to Sing!

We are more than the sum of our parts and Google calendar. My personal and work calendar are filled with activities of adventure, the mundane, and the unexpected. For me, and maybe for you too, there is always a story line weaving its way into my self-imposed and obligated list of things to do. For…