Friendship: Intentional

Being intentional…

  •  characterized by conscious design or purpose
  • meaning, planning or wanting to do (something)

My mom and I were sitting together at the Cafe’ at the Virginia Museum of Fine Arts (VMFA) on an intentional Sunday afternoon. We discussed everything from raising children, marriage, mother/daughter love, and memories of Aunt Kate. Aunt Kate lived in the building adjacent to the VMFA prior to the closing of the facility. It’s now own by VMFA and used for classes and events. As a little girl, I visited Aunt Kate and marveled at her simplicity and joy.

We began to talk about being intentional in relationships. How and when do you extend yourself outside your comfort zone to build a relationship? At times, we lack the capacity to be intentional, but we know those times we are feeling the nudge to be intentional and a door is open.

Maybe you can’t spend an exorbitant amount of time, but you can schedule an event or lunch to connect. Letters, a phone call, showing up, looking beyond yourself and your calendar to be intentional can change the course of someone’s life.

We can’t do it all, but we can strive to be more intentional in the moment, and to make or to create the time.

As my mother and I ran away together for a few hours and forgot the “to do list” we connected and rejuvenated.

“At the end of your life you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict, or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child or a parent.” Barbara Bush

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