If you always think what you’ve always thought, then you will always feel what you’ve always felt.

If you always feel what you’ve always felt, then you will always do what you’ve always done.

If you always do what you’ve always done, then you will always get what you’ve always gotten.

If you always get what you’ve always gotten, then you will always think what you’ve always thought!

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Reality Therapy at Insight Matters

These three questions are rooted in Reality Therapy.  Great questions to ask our children when disciplining.  Great questions to produce change in our personal lives.  Our thoughts truly become our words and our actions.

In Daring Greatly by Brene’ Brown she encourages self-compassion. Whatever your struggle or issue is in this season do not spend time beating yourself up or practicing self-loathing but to accept it–let it be.  I had a dear friend who reminded me of this life lesson.  I was struggling with where I was in my thoughts, and she shared to rest there–let it be.  I began to heal because I moved from self-judgment to understanding and “the work”.


Grace has been the topic of discussion in a sermon series entitled “Unshackled” by Pastor Stan Grant.  Our thoughts can bind us and keep us in bondage.  The insanity of the poem above stood out to me.  What a vicious cycle our thought world can keep us in.

Jesus is there to help!

When you say yes to Jesus and put your trust completely in Him you get a:

New Heart

“I will give you a new heart-I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.” Ezekiel 36:26)

New Song

I waited patiently for the Lord;
he turned to me and heard my cry.
He lifted me out of the slimy pit,
out of the mud and mire;
he set my feet on a rock
and gave me a firm place to stand.
He put a new song in my mouth,
a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see and fear the Lord
and put their trust in him.  (Psalm 40: 1-3)

New Name

Whoever has ears, let them hear what the Spirit says to the churches. To the one who is victorious, I will give some of the hidden manna. I will also give that person a white stone with a new name written on it, known only to the one who receives it. (Revelation 2:17)

New Nature

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! (2 Corinthians 2:17)

God’s love has never changed for you.  Your past, present, and future mistakes and accomplishments does not make God love you more or less.  Through His love and unending grace we are able to rest where we are in this moment–warts and all–while continuing to work towards change.  There is no condemnation in Jesus.  His grace sweetly convicts us to desire more.  The Holy Spirit gives us the wisdom and strength to work towards change.

God is so good and full of grace and mercy!


Like a rolling stone

Like a runaway train

No turning back, no more yesterdays

My heart is free!  No chains on me!


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