Intimacy in marriage: The mystery

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”

Proverbs 18:22

My husband recently shared a profound and sincere statement with me.  I’ve been married for almost 25 years, and I certainly am fully aware of the Godliness and beauty of intimacy between a husband and wife.  Intimacy is a mystery.  I don’t want to spend too much time on how the enemy has perverted intimacy–you know.  It’s the very thing you fight every day to keep out of your home and relationship.

I want to concentrate on the beauty.

My husband gave me permission to share.  He lovingly shared that when we are intimate, he is overwhelmed spiritually, physically, and emotionally.  Our love shared in unity gives him the strength to face the world.

I realized in that moment what a gift we are to our husbands.  I’m not saying that in an arrogant or lustful way.  We have this amazing opportunity and gift to share ourselves and that brings forth a mystery and provision for our husband to face the world, feel significant, and connected.

Intimacy is so complicated and painful for some, I just want to rest in the beauty of the purest of intentions from our God who created intimacy.  For just a moment, put away all the reasons why it’s painful, your anger, your weariness and rest in the knowledge of the gift.  No pressure to have more intimacy out of guilt; no pressure to perform; no looking back or forward.  Just rest.

My teenager was looking up verses for her artwork.  She ran across this verse randomly:

A loving doe, a graceful deer– may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

Proverbs 5:19

She yelled, “Oooooooooooooooooooooo disgusting!” and laughed.  I laughed along with her, and we had dialogue of the history of the verse, God’s meaning, and I shared with her that the verse was one her father speaks over our relationship.  That last part sent her to the moon!  “Stop mom!”  I shared with her that no matter how old Parish and I become, we promise to love each other.  We are committed to our relationship–we will never give up on “us”.

Men–let your wife know how beautiful she is and that she intoxicates you.  She satisfies you.

Women–YOU ARE A GOOD THING!  YOU bring forth favor from the Lord…………now that IS a mystery!  You are worthy, beautiful, fearfully and wonderfully made! (Psalm 139)

Singles– Wait….Don’t give your gift away before it’s time.  God has someone He has designed for you in marriage.  Under this covenant relationship, He will develop an intimate and beautiful union.  It’s worth the wait.

Those who are hurting in this area– seek counseling from a Christian counselor and KNOW God’s grace……He loves you and wants the very best for you in all things.

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