After the Engagement: A Prayer and Message for Our Families and Friends

There are certain aspects of a wedding ceremony that overwhelm me with emotion.  Weddings and marriage are symbols of our covenant relationship with Jesus.  One day He will return for His bride–the church and a great wedding feast will occur in heaven.  No longer will there be individual weddings, but a unified wedding, in which, all His children will celebrate in perfect peace and redemption.

Let us rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, for the marriage of the Lamb has come and His bride has made herself ready. It was given to her to clothe herself in fine linen, bright and clean; for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints.

Revelation 19:7-9

On the wedding day, the moment the doors are open, the music becomes a little louder, and the Bride is ready. This moment portrays the glorious day.  God’s Word calls it The Day.  I have been to many weddings and watched the mother-of-the-bride stand in honor of this moment.  She is the last one seated, and the first to rise to take a stand of agreement, honor, and praise!  What a worshipful moment!

I can still remember watching for my mother to rise and my father walking me down the aisle.  Here we are, my husband and I, in this honored place.

The greatest joy is watching the man of God’s choosing for my daughter anticipate the coming of the bride, and his expression when he sees her for the first time.

This symbolism overwhelms me.  I can only imagine the joy of seeing Jesus face-to-face, totally redeemed in robes of righteousness-white, purity, and living in the greatest love story ever created.  His perfect love.  His proposal to us was at the cross.  His arms outstretched and welcoming all.  No one is excluded from this love–all are given this free gift. We need only to accept the free gift.

Yesterday at the engagement party of my oldest daughter, I expressed my joy of anticipating this moment.  This morning, my husband prayed over the families.  I wish you could have been here on our little sofa.   Looking back over yesterday, I realized that in all the preparing, he wanted to share a blessing.  This will be a year of blessing, prayers, and “engaging”.

Let us take the initiative and be bold to speak words of encouragement and blessings into the lives of this couple. It’s never too late, it’s always a good time, and if God is nudging you–speak up, share, and bless.

My husband’s prayer as I remembered from this morning is below.  Please read and know we wish to speak these words directly to you–individually.  Key words that stood out to me:  “turn their gaze toward You”, leadership, submission, joy, focus, blessing, and unity.  What a joy to begin this journey with the Lamb/Tucker/Hebb/Lloyd family and friends.  Know we are praying for you!


Father, God we ask that anyone who is a part of Victoria and Spencer’s wedding, turn their gaze toward you.  May all we do honor You.   Father, help us to honor those in our families who have been such a strong support in the lives of our children.  We pray for Tyra and her family.  Lord bless them with your peace.

In each situation help us make choices that are centered on You.  Jesus, when we are making decisions, check our motives, help us to know what to do, what to say, and how to respond.  May we not be self-seeking but focused on Your will and purpose for marriage.

Father, help Spencer as the Spiritual leader of his family and guide him in Your love.  Help Victoria, as his wife, to respect and submit to Spencer’s leadership and love him.  Lord, just like the cord of three strands that is not easily broken, may their life be interwoven in You.  Lord, I pray a special blessing on my wife. Guide her and help her to know Your love today.  Lord, I thank you for everything you are to each one of us.  Amen

My husband always closes a prayer with that last sentence.  It’s taken on a new meaning.  We know that it will take a life time to get to know our new family but the realization of Jesus’ knowledge and love for each of us individually is beautiful.  He loves you….

May the Lamb/Hebb wedding be a reflection of His love.


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