I woke up this morning with the scripture running through my mind “I will sustain you…” The message was not audible, but a gentle voice heard inside my mind that seemed to comfort and reassure. I smiled, and I thanked God for waking me up in this beautiful way.
There is a therapy called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, or DBT. Taken from ancient wisdom and cognitive behavioral therapy, one of the tenets is that two opposing things can exist within your reality or situation. Why is this important? Have you ever heard of the expression “all or nothing”? When we feel this way or use the expression it’s usually an ultimatum we create for ourselves or others. DBT is radical acceptance along with change. There are no “buts”. We hold the truth that we, or our loved one is doing the best they can AND desires to change or do better. We can be hurt and love at the same time. We can question and still embrace inner confidence that answers will come. Depression, anxiety, and trauma along with a national presence of polarization have caused many of us to react in an “all or nothing” way. I find that I struggle with frenzied apathy (yes they can exist at the same time).
In my quiet time, the study, Truthfilled, by Simons, asked us to read Colossians 1: 15-20 and think of who God is within our situations.
“What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us…We tend by a secret law of the soul to move toward our mental image of God.” A.W. Tozer
What is your mental image of God when you get a diagnosis? Your child is hurting? Your marriage is struggling? Your boss praises you, or minimizes your work? Can God “hold all things together” (Hebrews 1:3) during times that you feel everything is falling apart? Can you walk in His love at the same time you are wrestling with deep insecurities?
The founder of DBT is Marsha Linehan; however, I see her brilliant work within my relationship with my Creator. I often lie to myself that I’m either perfect, doing things well, or I’m imperfect and I question my worth.
Spiritually we can acknowledge who God is within our daily journey through the lens of His amazing love for us. The book Truthfilled can help you embrace filling your mind with who God is and His goodness.
We can also speak aloud our opposing thoughts that include the word “and” and practice living within the moment with self acceptance and worth. We can improve our relationships by imparting the same radical acceptance towards our loved ones and those we come in contact with –jobs, place of worship, extended family.
If you are experiencing a winter season in your life, remember that the freshness and beauty of spring exists at the same time winter is in season. They both exist in the rhythm of cycles, change, and acceptance that both are needed. The flower does not scold the dormant seed. She blooms because the seed, in its restful, hidden state, brings life.